Author: Mila

Proactive people are those who are in control of their life, pursue their goals and make their own path guided by their heart because they believe in themselves.

"Being proactive is part of human nature and while proactive muscles may be numb, they are certainly in their place" Stephen Covey

Many people wait for things to fall from the sky, they wait for the opportunity, or they choose between what there is, not to take responsibility for anything, they always blame everything external and get angry easily, these people are reactive. Typical expressions of reactive people are: I am like that and I cannot change, thereby denying any possibility of improvement and justifying their behavior. Reactive people react and are affected by their physical and social environment without entering into an analysis of the situation and expect others to solve their problems, they tend to stay in the problems and resign themselves to them, blaming their misfortunes on others.

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are faced with the challenge of changing ourselves."
Victor Franqui

On the contrary, proactive people make things happen, they take the initiative and solve their own problems, they know that it is up to them to try to change or achieve things and this attitude makes them improve, learn, improve and reinvent themselves. Proactive people know their strengths and weaknesses very well, they are not conditioned by others or by circumstances.
In matters of love, proactive people are guided by what their heart wants, while reactive people are capable of sabotaging a relationship by what others think and when others condition you, you are showing fears, insecurities and weakness of character and a wrong reflection of who you are.

Taking initiative does not mean being pushy, annoying or aggressive, it means acknowledging our responsibility to make things happen.

How can we work proactivity?
We must start by working on the only thing we have control, on ourselves, paying attention to our thoughts and our internal dialogue, pausing before reacting and asking ourselves what certain responses that we give out of place or closed behaviors lead us to. Eliminate phrases such as: I am not responsible, I cannot do anything about it, it is because of ...

To be proactive we need to focus our efforts in three areas:

• Keep a focus on finding solutions.

• Exercise the ability to make better decisions.

• Invest in your personal development and raise your standards.

The human being is infinitely intelligent and has the ability to continuously correct and improve himself, we have demonstrated this throughout the history of humanity as he also has the ability to self-destruct, it is a personal matter to choose which path to take, but I have the faith to wait. that we are more those who want to live in a friendly world and do our bit so that more people see life as something wonderful and take obstacles as links for our evolution.

"Life is very dangerous not because of the people who do evil but because of those who sit down to see what happens"
Albert Einstein.

"Success is connected to action. Successful people keep moving, they make mistakes, but they never give up".
Conrad Hiltón.

When you are involved in a task that you lose track of time, when you are so focused on something that you fully enjoy and have all 5 senses in it, that is FLUIR, we are in a state of Flow. In this state everything flows because nothing else is lived in the present. It is a state of concentration and full abstraction in a specific activity or situation.

Normally we live in chaos, where we are dominated by worries, doing a task and thinking about things to do, about information of all kinds. It happens to us that we are in a place and thinking about something, someone and we do not pay attention to what we have in front of us, when we delay what we should do because we are distracted as the phrase says: "Thinking of shrews", we are in body, but not in soul. This causes our mental energy to disperse and we lose focus, the information that you reach us is not congruent with our purposes. Well, the opposite happens to the state of Flow, which is entropy, disorder, chaos.

Consciousness is ordered information and each one defines what information remains and what does not, we do this through ATTENTION, since attention is in charge of selecting which information is most relevant to our consciousness, in this way the personality is built . The set of all the elements that have circulated through the consciousness of a person: places, actions, beliefs, desires, etc. roughly make up his way of being since we are the combination of what we have lived and the way we have processed what we have lived.

PUT ORDER TO THE CHAOS OF YOUR MIND. ORGANIZE YOUR CONSCIENCE

Concentration and focus: If you have a clear objective and carry out tasks that you do not like, even so, if you focus and concentrate to the maximum, any task will be pleasant and easier.

Feeling that you are progressing, that things are being done well and that you are in control of what you do is the key to identifying the state of Flow.

Create clear, specific goals, this will enhance attention and you will know exactly how to do it.

Learn to control your conscience, listen to your inner dialogue, recognize opportunities for action, improve skills and set achievable goals.

LIVE AND ACT IN A STATE OF FLOW AND ALL YOUR EXPERIENCE WILL BE OPTIMAL AND FULL

The practice of this state is a continuous improvement, you can change bad experiences or what is difficult for you into easy and enjoyable, you will be able to notice the details that you previously overlooked.

You have the power to avoid distractions and focus on pursuing your goals as where you put your energy and attention will determine the outcome.

The feeling of fusion with what you do: Enjoy with a person, a book, a song, a landscape and whatever you do will be incredible.

IF YOU CONTROL YOUR ATTENTION YOU CONTROL YOUR CONSCIENCE, AND IF YOU CONTROL YOUR CONSCIENCE YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

According to the RAE, Resilience is the ability of a living being to adapt to a disturbing agent or an adverse state or situation.

Resilience is a word very in line with these times of COVID. We have all had to adapt to unexpected situations and seek solutions to alleviate our sorrows, we have made adjustments of all kinds and accumulated patience, we have exercised prayer, prayer, empathy and collaboration.

Simply translated, Resilience is the art of transcending adverse circumstances and showing that we are made despite the vicissitudes of the moment, it is the art of continuing to stand despite everything or nothing.

The good news is that resilience is a muscle that we can exercise every time we respond positively to something, that we creatively solve something. When we focus on the solution and not the problem, we are exercising and strengthening our resilience muscle.

RESILIENCE AS A TRAMPOLINE NOT AS A SOFA

People who are not very resilient perceive adversity in a negative way, believe that they do not have the means to face it, and block and cancel their growth mechanisms. Resilient people, on the other hand, perceive adversity as a challenge and this allows them to draw their inner strength and try not to collapse no matter how painful it is.

Do not get caught in the bad times, do not behave like a victim, the problems are there to help us grow. Tell your best story and live with good will, list your joys, live your present applying everything you have learned positively and plan your future with optimism, use your strengths to move forward, change your defeatist thoughts for thoughts that reinforce your resilience. Remember that it is not about being afraid but about moving forward despite obstacles, despite fear.

The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.

When a cycle closes it is something very good, it means maturity in the processes of life, perfect harmony with the universe, it is the law of cause and effect that applies directly to us, there is no need to worry, we must be grateful, it means that We are ready for the next level for a new beginning and that change is wrapped up in all the things we learned, let go of and overcome in the previous stage. Remember that no state is permanent, everything is transitory like the natural cycle of life. You have to re-work the land and sow so that the new crops germinate and be able to enjoy the new, the now.

I insist on embracing change and all that it entails and above all on having the certainty that all future times have to be better, much better since we are made of our experiences and the ability to reinvent ourselves in every moment. You always choose how you want to assimilate it, you can allow bad experiences to dominate you and be a spiteful and infected being of anguish and suffering, or you can focus on all the wisdom that is acquired and that the bad moments you went through serve as creative frustration of a better present-future that allow you to be your best version.

IT'S UP TO YOU.

Let's reflect on this phrase:

From the moment we are born, we are conditioned by the family, the environment, the society that label us, classify us in that it should be this way or that way and impregnate us with fears, doubts, fears.

The classic phrases we say to children: don't touch there, you can't speak, don't do that, etc. they create limitations for us and frame us in a preconceived model from which it is difficult for us to escape.

History has shown that successful or outstanding people in their fields are the ones who have separated themselves from these suggestions since failure to a large extent is for those who accept the limitations imposed by others without question.

WHEN YOU DON'T MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR LIFE, SOMEONE WILL MAKE THEM FOR YOU

If you do nothing to change what is bothering you, do not complain about your condition. If your beliefs and limitations hold you back, it is time to change them and if you are willing and want to see a positive change, you must leave the comfort zone since in the comfort zone you will survive, you will be safe, but by leaving it, you will learn, evolve and you will enjoy what you do.

REPROGRAMME YOUR BRAIN TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

Your inner dialogue is the key. There is a close relationship between mind and body, one depends on the other and vice versa.

If we are sad, we have a greater chance of getting sick and if we are self-motivated we can achieve what we propose, this shows the close relationship I am talking about. That is why you must choose the emotions with which we want to vibrate.

It is incredible to see how the simple gesture of smiling, even if we are sad, changes our body chemistry and we will soon see a change because we are sending information from your body to the brain and, as imperceptible as it may seem, it is a way to control emotions.

Don't let your emotions control you. You can always choose and install the emotions that allow you to see the good side or the best side of things.

Remember that everything is relative. Everything that you now believe to be true could be a lie.

This is why I end with a tip to take control of your existence:

Always question the apparent truths that you know and seek your own.  

What if we change the phrase "You have to see to believe" by "You have to believe to see"?

The future is built in the present, on a day-to-day basis. The expectations you have at the beginning of a new day greatly influence the results you will obtain that same day, since your attitude tells the universe what you expect from it.

Remember that you are not going to have the kind of day you want to have. Not! You are going to have the kind of day, job, relationships, economy or life that you hope to have.

You see the difference?

If we expect great things to happen in our lives, we will act according to these expectations and great things will happen. It's that easy.

Believing that something can be done motivates us to go for it, on the contrary, believing that it cannot be paralyzed because beliefs about our possibilities drive us or repress us.

Within each person there is a great power, the question is whether that power is activated or deactivated. Learning to believe in yourself is the starting point to achieve goals.

The first challenge of each person is to water the garden of the mind through the repetition of positive messages that begin to internalize and become part of the subconscious that is what governs our lives.

Fears vs. Successes

"Do what you fear and the fear will disappear"

Any emotion exists because it is useful, the problem is when that emotion does not fulfill its function.

Fear is a necessary emotion because in the face of any threat it allows us to react intelligently, but the problem arises when fear paralyzes us, blocks us and cancels us.

There is a stimulating fear that mobilizes us and drives us to do our best, and there is a toxic fear that paralyzes us. Faced with this situation, we must choose what to do with fear.

Fear is countered by doing, daring, taking control.

"If I were born again I would live differently because I have spent more than 80% of my time preparing for problems that never arose"

                                                                            Jorge Luis Borjas, writer

Create a successful future

Success is nothing more than the daily application of discipline.

The achievement of results works according to the following scheme:

Success is built on habits, habits in repetition and repetition in discipline. It is not enough to have motivation, which is what encourages us to start, but we must create habits because they are what allow us to achieve goals. Habits are acquired by repetition based on practicing the same task over and over again and therefore a variable is essential: "Discipline", which is doing what has to be done without excuses.

What you have to do is often the most uncomfortable thing to do, which is why many people do not get results.

Our life is the result of the average of the 5 people with whom we interact, so it is essential to be in the right environments, so be careful who you hang out with.

Success is not a matter of luck or miracles, it is simply the consequence of consistently applying basic principles with discipline and purpose.

To succeed you have to stop being normal, you cannot discover new worlds with old eyes, for some things to come in, others have to come out to make room. It is the law of life.

We are unique, unrepeatable, the essential of each person is their uniqueness. What you must do is find your difference and put it in value, discover your rarity, your originality and then give it shape.

What is it like to live for yourself? Have you ever considered a question like this? Surprisingly, most people do not understand the true meaning of this phrase. People often think, for some reason, that the person who lives for himself is selfish, narcissistic, without taking into account the opinions of others. But is that the case?

Living for yourself, not for your husband, children, relatives, colleagues and any good deity, that does not mean being a bad person. This concept has a different meaning in psychology: to value, sincerely love your own "I", always find time for activities that interest you and not go against your beliefs and moral principles.

If you think you need to learn to live for yourself, you will have to work on yourself to finally start enjoying life. Believe me: if you are happy, then the people around you will receive only a positive experience from you. Here are some tips for living life.

Back to the past

When time passes, forgetting what we wanted out of life becomes natural. One way to rescue this is by telling close friends and family what we always said we wanted to do in life, what our dreams were, what we talked about. Such responses can help us reconnect when our needs were most vibrant with the phase of life. This does not mean radical changes at all times. So, for example, bringing back an old hobby interest, meeting old friends, doing things that we set out to do and did not do for lack of time is a way of doing something that makes sense to us.

Create a vision board

Reserve a place to create a frame of your dreams and goals with a collage of images, sketches and phrases. This is a great way to nurture hope and change inspiration. The image does not have to be large: the intention is to explain what you want and release the current of your internal manifestations. This exercise can also help you identify what something awakens in you in pictures and words. So take the time to enjoy this creative process.

Set your perfect day

Take about 10 minutes out of your day to describe what a perfect day in your life would look like. What would happen in those 24 hours if you could live several times a day? It would be much better, write down everything you want to do, from waking up to bedtime. Describe all the details of your perfect day and feel the emotion that you imagine it, what your home is like, your workplace, what you are going to eat, who your friends are, etc. It's a good way to keep an eye on your wishes and visualize them.

Fight for change if it makes you happy

Loving yourself is the beginning of an adventure that lasts a lifetime

Oscar Wilde

Many of us have a latent fear of drastically changing something in our lives, but it is precisely the change that takes us out of the comfort zone and makes us evolve, learn, know and take on the challenges involved in facing the new, a stranger. The question is to embrace the change and take it as a new possibility to test ourselves, to be able to decide how we want to live that change and everything new that it could bring us.