Category: Personal development

Throughout our lives we face difficult situations that in one way or another end up affecting or dulling our personality. If this is the case, I would like to share with you my own actions that have helped me to change that situation:

1. BE YOURSELF: Your essence cannot change, it is you, Feel proud of being who you are !. It is about improving, modifying, highlighting the strengths that you have and working on them to enhance them. But when you feel lost, go back to the beginning, to those places, people, things that make you smile, and little by little you will regain your zen.

2. READS A LOT! GET KNOWLEDGE: Do you have your life project? The best thing you can do to have a clear path in your personal goals is: Read the best books on topics related to self-improvement. Educate yourself and fill yourself with positive information! Any source of positive information that adds value to you is the best instrument to discover your path: books, podcasts, movies, programs, therapies; any track is good to build your path but always focused on what you really want. Do not get distracted!

3. PRACTICE CONSTANTLY: As you acquire new skills and knowledge, the first thing you should do is practice them every day without fail. Remember that everyday are new pages to write, take the opportunity to appropriate the new and stand out woman! Sometimes work, home, life gets more and more loaded every day, but don't let yourself be distracted. If you really want something, wherever you are, you have to go for it, because no one else will do it for you.

4. START STEP BY STEP: Like the song, start with short-term goals that you can achieve. Do not go over the top yet, otherwise you would end up discouraged and not wanting to continue fighting and that is not the idea. A little bit today and another tomorrow but never stop doing something, because stopping the wheel of energy that prompted you to start will slow down and postpone the project you long for. You will leave it for when there is time, when you have inspiration, when it flows, and sometimes life does not flow, it stagnates but you have to shine and move on.

5. WIDE YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE: Humans by nature are sociable. Not going out and getting to know new cultures, thoughts or opinions will make you focus on your opinion only, this being negative in personal relationships. Listening to the opinion of someone who is outside allows you to see another point of view, perhaps the problem is not as serious as you thought and that person will help you discover it.

6. BE PATIENT: Good results take time, remember that experience makes perfect. Enjoy the process of your change woman! Although the wait is difficult, do not lose hope and focus on what you want. The time invested will be worth it not because of the result but because of what you have learned, that's what life is all about. Learning and reinventing yourself!

7. AGRADECE: Siempre que te levantes y acuestes no olvides agradecer por lo que pasó, pasa y va a pasar; agradece por todo lo que te rodeó y principalmente da gracias porque esta cambiando para tu bien, créeme, siempre es por tu bien aunque no lo veas, aunque te sientas solo, aunque el dolor te ahoge. ¡Todo lo que sucede es para tu bien!

8. MAKE A PHYSICAL CHANGE: Yes ... it works, it is a good option to remove something old from you, the best is a new look. It helps you to always look your best: cut your hair, change the color, lose weight, change clothes, they will make you look like a woman who is passionate about what she does, full of good energy and overflowing with joy wherever Wow, optimal features for the success you want.

To better face the challenges that your life , Shine!

The sense of living and the simplicity of being.

Simplicity is a virtue since it requires a high level of consciousness and it is not simple who wants but who can. We usually complain that life is complicated, hard and really when we say this we confuse life with survival. Life simply flows like a river that runs despite the obstacles in its path, it is the mind that creates complications when we forget our essence and start living from the ego, we need the power and wisdom to overcome the obstacles . When we forget what is essential, what we really are, we complicate our lives, what we believe is important at all times causes us to lose what is essential. The important thing is that immediate desire that is ephemeral because once it is achieved it ceases to be important, if you think about things that three years ago were important to you and now are not. Personality is clothed with what is important: hierarchy, status, that others value and recognize you.

"In a complex world, less is more"

Simplicity is the opposite, simplicity is simply being, it is when you accept yourself, you value yourself, you respect yourself; It is a harmonious relationship with yourself and from that place without the least effort you make others respect and value you. The more complicated you see life for you is because your fears and your ego do not allow you to flow.

Knowing the truth will set you free.

This phrase does not refer to identifying truths and lies, this means becoming aware of: I am aware that what I am living as truth will be free of beliefs, fanaticism, limiting thoughts, erroneous behavior patterns. When we speak of freedom, we speak of non-conditioning. Nor is it about absolute truth because we know absolute truth does not exist, there are small truths that lead us to great truths through situations that by knowledge and experimentation make us become aware and in the end we acquire wisdom and wisdom is the key to the door of truth. When you can say: This I no longer believe, they have not told me, they have not instilled it in me, I know this because I have lived it and I have acquired the experience, I have acquired the consciousness and the wisdom with which this is true for me It is true in my world, and it does not mean that it is true for others based on the fact that each person is a world.

Truth is a belief, it is a door that opens, but when that belief becomes entrenched, it is a door that closes through ignorance, inexperience, through assumptions and fanaticism.

       "Stop throwing your life away when you have to throw away all the garbage in your life"

The law of balance.

This law explains that two poles have a middle point, the two poles are part of the truth but they are not the absolute truth, when we move away from the poles, we find the path of truth that is the fusion of both polarities. When you know the truth that makes you free then you begin to be simple, there is no struggle, there is detachment, you let yourself go, you make patience, perseverance, day to day make life be lived and everything takes on meaning, everything It is magical, we find beauty in everyday life, in everything that crosses our path. When life is lived, life is simple and in simplicity there is coherence, honesty, transparency, unconditional love. When we value life as something that evolves with each breath, with each heartbeat, with each decision we make, life is simple, simple and essential.

"We all have two lives and the second begins when we realize that we only have one"

Daniel Golenman defines it as the ability to accurately identify our own emotions and also the emotions of others. It is the ability to use emotions to our advantage and apply them to tasks such as thinking and problem solving.

Why do people with high IQ suffer so much? It is because of the lack or little emotional intelligence that they have that makes them drown in a glass of water and feel that the world is falling on them. Emotional intelligence includes self-control, persistence, and self-motivation.

Empathy is one of the characteristics of people with emotional intelligence since it is a fundamental tool that allows us to understand the feelings and emotions of other people and that makes us connect with what the other feels, put ourselves in their shoes and act accordingly. .

Tolerance to frustration is key to developing our emotional intelligence, we must accept that things will not always turn out the way we want and that suffering is an inherent part of life, but if we manage to mentally anticipate that what is likely will not happen. we hope or that there may be unexpected turns that are not to our liking, we will be able to contemplate several variables and thus we will be better prepared.

"Use pain as a stone in your path, not as a camping area"

Alan Cohen.

Emotional self-regulation is the ability to experience emotions of any kind, negative or positive in a moderate and flexible way and that fundamentally depends on the attitude, for example, when we are afraid of a situation X we must take control and try to have a positive internal dialogue To manage that emotion as well as possible, phrases such as: We are going to control ourselves, we have to be brave, we can get out of this, I am calm, it is already happening, etc.

"Intense negative emotions absorb all of the individual's attention, hampering any attempt to attend to something else."

Daniel Golenman.

Perseverance is a variable that is closely related to success and being persistent is a matter of training, it is about setting realistic goals that we can meet and above all, understanding that results and gratification are at the end of the road and that to get there Until then we will not be exempt from making mistakes that are part of learning and evolution.

If we want to achieve great goals we have to be willing to endure a certain discomfort, it is like pain when you train, that discomfort tells us that we are doing well and it is part of the process.

"Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them"

People with great emotional intelligence are not perfectionists because they know that perfection does not exist, they reject the feeling of failure that the incessant search for perfection brings, since trying to be perfect we will never be able to enjoy our achievements.

They know their strengths and weaknesses well. They know how to value their strengths and how to use them in a way that can compensate for their weaknesses, and they take advantage of these strengths in all their social settings.

They are self-motivated since their motivation comes from within and they are very clear about their goals and what they need to achieve it.

They have empathy for others and are genuinely interested in other people, they are able to tune into body language and facial expressions to understand the expressions of others, even without words.

They are not afraid of change since they know how to control their fears so that they do not paralyze the path towards their goals, they accept change as necessary for personal growth and they have the ability to be flexible to adapt when necessary.

They know how to handle their emotions, they know how to channel anger towards situations or events instead of towards people since they are rational and can keep their emotions under control. They are confident and self-assured enough not to be offended by trivial things.

We need more people who care about others, people who hold us together, who see human sensitivity as a strength of the species, leaders who think about collective well-being, proactive people who know how to listen and with an optimistic attitude towards life. People who give us smiles and touch our hearts.

"When emotional intelligence merges with spiritual intelligence, human nature is transformed"

Deepak Chopra.

 Stoic philosophy

El estoicismo es una corriente filosófica de la antigua Grecia que defiende la armonía entre la naturaleza y las necesidades humanas para el logro de la felicidad y la sabiduría, prescindiendo de las cosas superfluas. El estoicismo es una enseñanza sobre la virtud, la tolerancia y el autocontrol ya que se define como estoico a alguien que permanece tranquilo bajo presión y evita los extremos emocionales. 

We are part of a whole and everything that happens around us works under the principle of cause and effect. Stoic philosophy raises the problem that we tend to seek pleasure in external things that condition and subdue us and, on the contrary, everything we need to be happy is hidden within us. When we complain, we take the responsibility outwards and we always tend to blame instead of recognizing our individual responsibility and our weaknesses, and with this it is only possible to expand the discomfort and promote victimhood.

This philosophy proposes us to discover ourselves and build from within a solid structure to stand upright in the face of life's vicissitudes, overcome irrational fears and develop our strength and courage to fight our way through adversity, make clear decisions and have self-control and control at all times. . It is about improving ourselves in times of difficulty and knowing that inner strength is exercised and comes to light in difficult times. 

»Man controls the world when he manages to control himself»

A Stoic Proposal

AMOR FATI/ AMOR AL DESTINO/ AMOR A LOS HECHOS

Acepta la adversidad como parte de tu camino, prepárate para el peor escenario. Cada vez que tomes una decisión visualiza lo peor que te puede pasar si no sale como tu quisieras, esto no tiene nada que ver con pesimismo, se trata de contemplar todas las posibilidades lo cual nos permite crear un plan de contingencias y estar mejor preparados.

It is having a proactive and expansive attitude, that prior preparation makes the unbearable more bearable since the only thing that cannot be survived is death. We must also respect each one in their processes because pity and compassion do not lead to anything, what we must do is accompany them and inspire them with our example.

"The sufferings do not derive from the events of our life but from our judgment on it"

Epicteto.

Focus on your internal control. Focus your attention only on what is up to you and you can control. Your attitude, your thoughts, your behavior and your words, this is achieved through attention.

"You become what you pay attention to"

Epicteto.   

Treat obstacles with emotional detachment. This is not about getting cold but about turning the problem into a challenge. We tend to see problems as something external that comes to harm us and that makes us victims or prey, but if we see it as a challenge or something that is our individual responsibility, it will allow us to gather our internal and external resources, prepare us better and develop tolerance and tolerance. empathy. It is that resilience that helps us overcome the difficulties that come our way with a stoic posture that keeps us on our feet and does not let our morale and spirit disintegrate.

"There is no one less fortunate than the one whom adversity forgets, because he never has the opportunity to test himself"

Séneca.

MEMENTO MORI/ RECUERDA QUE VAS A MORIR

Esta conciencia de la muerte no es para hundirnos sino para  partir de este análisis, darle un giro positivo a nuestra vida y aprovechar bien el tiempo que es tan valioso, recordar lo que verdaderamente importa que es buscar la simplicidad de las cosas, la risa, el amor y el gozo que la vida nos brinda en cada momento. Es no postergar las cosas, es disfrutar de nuestros seres queridos, es tratarnos con generosidad y respeto, practicar el agradecimiento y dejar un legado. Es hacer que el haber pasado por la vida tenga sentido y valga la pena. 

»That the simple fact that you can cease to exist right now determines what you think, what you say and what you do»               

Marco Aurelio.     

CARPE DIEM QUAM MINIMUM CREDULA POSTERO MEMENTO MORI (APROVECHA EL DIA, NO CONFIES EN MAÑANA, RECUERDA QUE MORIRAS)

     

Es increíble reconocer que nacemos sabiendo que algún día vamos a morir pero no estamos preparados para eso y vivimos como si nunca fuéramos a irnos. Cuando perdemos a un ser querido el dolor y el impacto es profundo, sentimos que se pierde una parte de nosotros, alguien que con su amor alimentaba nuestra alma, que nos hacía sentir protegidos. Existen conexiones y sentimientos muy fuertes con nuestros seres amados y ese vacío es imposible de reemplazar pero siempre podemos hacer algo para paliar la pérdida.

PAIN IS INEVITABLE BUT SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.

We have to get up and continue because life has more plans for us because our path continues and there are more people and goals awaiting us, we can use the pain of loss to rebound and show ourselves that we can continue regardless. There is a plan for everyone and the true meaning of being human is to live, find yourself and be happy. Let's look from a broader perspective: If unfortunately we have lost a loved one, at the same time we always have something good left, the things we learned with him remain, the people who unite us with him and the dreams that remained to be fulfilled to enjoy them with him, then we have an obligation to move forward.

It is very sad indeed, but what use is too much sadness? So much sadness and prayer will not bring him back, we must focus on satisfying the desires of the loved one and think about how he would like to see us.

We can strengthen ourselves and turn pain into a lever to develop the will. Replace sadness with inner strength and determination, then even if one part of you feels pain, the other will generate more will to continue and fulfill your wishes.

In some strange or magical way, if we are useful and happy, that person who left us will also be happy, he will rest in peace, or at least we will have a clear conscience that we honor him even after he has left. It is also good to think that we are in essence more than matter. There is something else that cannot be seen, that cannot be felt but that is felt with the heart.

"We are not human beings living a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings living a human experience".

Wayne Dyer